It's what I always hoped for her: a happy and joyous wedding, held on a spring day bursting with flowers and sunshine, her friends and family supporting her and cheering her on, while a good man stood ready to devote himself to making her happy for the rest of her life. To see my hopes fulfilled is a dream come true.
It's a mother's dream, one I wasn't sure I'd actually get to see realized. My daughter always knew her own mind. It's a great trait, but when she announced at the ripe old age of seven that she didn't want to get married -- ever -- I was a bit disturbed. It was the vehemence of it.
She always got along so good with boys. She was always the only girl let into the boy's fort. She was always the one they followed around when there an adventure on the loose. She was that girl -- the one the boys respected. She didn't feel the same about them.
A mother of the Bride speech is that important event where a mother can publicly honor her daughter, her new husband, and also bless their new marriage. The speech sample below contains many of the necessary elements that such a speech should have. Be sure to also read the notes for a summary of these elements...
For those of you who don't know me, I am Sadie Smith, mother of the beautiful bride. I'm very pleased to see so many happy faces, and thankful that you have traveled to bring so many well wishes to our family on the day of this special and jubilant event. I am also thankful to all those who helped us create this wedding celebration.
It's clear your efforts are a success. Everywhere I look I find contented smiles that tell me what a fine job everyone has done in making this occasion one of perfect happiness. I appreciate it especially as I look at my daughter to find peace and joy shining on her face.
At ten she continued to insist she was never going to get married. I said, "What if you fall in love?" She looked at me like I was crazy.
When she was 15 it came up again. Her father asked what she had against marriage. After all, it was working out all right for him, he said. Thank you, honey -- I still appreciate you saying that. Anyhow, Sally told him it wasn't the marriage part that bothered her, it was the guy part. When we asked her why, she said, "Because guys are largely a bunch of idiots."
First my husband said, "Thanks a lot." Then he said, "Well, I know it seems that way sometimes... okay, a lot of the time. Still," he told her, "we do kill bugs."
My daughter said, "True," and the way she said it I began to feel a little hope. I realized suddenly that Sally, the leader of the boys in childhood, the one who always knew her mind, thought the way she did because she needed an extra special man, one with qualities a cut above the rest. I had no doubt that he would find my daughter and that she would change her mind about the whole marriage scenario.
Then John came along. He is a cut above the rest, and besides that, he showed exquisite taste in falling for my beautiful Sally. I'm pleased and proud that he is now a member of the family. I'm also pleased to welcome his extended family, the Wessons. I know our two tribes, now united through Sally and John, will make many wonderful memories together in the future.
Here's to the Smiths and Wessons, united through the bond of love that Sally and John share. May that love continue to create friendships and family ties as it grows between Sally and John throughout the rest of their lives.
Mother of the Bride Speech: Notes
The father of the bride and mother of the bride have similar duties if both are to speak. They need to talk beforehand so as not to overlap. In general, they need to speak as family heads, happy for two families to be united and also happy that they are gaining a new son in the form of the groom. Stories about the bride should never mention previous marriages or loves.
For a more detailed analysis of this kind of speech, and the necessary elements it should contain, see the father of the groom speeches page, for principles that are equally valid for a mother of the bride speech.
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